It’s like being on a perpetual first date that’s going really well but the guy never goes in for the kiss, (even though he would totally score if he did! You can tell he loves being around you and hanging out, hell, he may even hug you now and then like a boyfriend, but he never initiates anything more physical. What’s more likely is that he loves being around you, and probably does even love your personality to some degree, but he has no sexual attraction. A lot of guys wish they felt sexual attraction for women they were great buddies with, because that would be the ideal scenario!Imagine the following simple formula for attraction: Real Attraction = Sexual Chemistry Connection Respect The guy can have all the Connection and Respect in the world for you, but without Sexual Chemistry, he’s not going to be able to feel true attraction for you. But neither he, nor you, nor anyone else can force sexual chemistry if he doesn’t feel it.Make it a rule to only see him in the company of others, or not at all.
” And your response is to shrug your shoulders and say: “I’m not sure really”, or even just “I’d like to be!For example, not every guy you have sex with will be your idea of a perfect boyfriend.Some of it just comes down to compatibility issues.But somewhere your relationship is lacking in either Connection or Respect.
Some women will be tempted to think that Respect is linked to them having a sexual relationship with him too soon, but that’s not true.
Moreover, you have to watch out for those guys who actually enjoy the validation of the Friend Trap and stay there on purpose, enjoying your attention but never really making their move.